I don’t know why, but it really bugs me that depression is still something that is looked upon in a bad light. Really irks me.
I have, and do suffer from major depression. And it’s not simply something I can just “control”.
So I was thinking of things people say to me that makes me want to scream..
1.why can’t you just smile?
-bitch, if I could smile; I would.
2.Eeverything will get better.
-i know eventually everything gets better, and even 95% of the time things aren’t as bad as I think they are.. telling me things get better, doesn’t make me feel any better.
3. Trust God.
-I want everyone to know that just because I’m depressed doesn’t mean I’m riddled with demons.. or I don’t trust or believe in God. But telling me to trust him doesn’t help my depression.
4. Why can’t you just be happy?
-for real? Someone says that to me one more time I’ll punch you in the throat so hard I’ll collapse your windpipe. With people who
suffer from depression, happiness is not a choice. It’s a longing, a want.. a dream.
5. You’re crazy.
-no. No I’m not crazy. But you call me crazy one more time I’m going to flip shit so hard you’re gonna know what crazy is.
6.happiness is a choice.
-if happiness were really a choice for people with depression don’t you think I’d choose it? I mean it’s not like I wake up every morning and think to myself “hmm.. I could be happy but I think I’ll choose to want to feel hopeless and worthless today. Yea, I’ll do that..”.. Riight.
People don’t understand that depression is not a choice. It is a very serious, very common aailment that plagues more people than you may realize. Sometimes you just need to shut up and listen, or just be there. We don’t need your “words of encouragement”. Because most of the time they make us feel worse. We just need someone to sit and listen, or to make us laugh. Don’t come to us with your guilty encouragement. We don’t need it.
Just realize that when someone does or says something, it’s not for your sympathy.. it’s a way for us to say we need help or a way for us to say we need you to sit and listen. To be a friend. To TRY to understand that what were going through and feeling; is NOT a choice.
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